Parent’s Guide

Planning a wedding is an exciting and emotional time for everyone, including parents. Every family is different and each wedding is unique. These days, traditions are not necessarily followed and there are no rules to planning a wedding. However, there is one fundamental truth; all weddings are symbolic of two families joining as one.


We hope that the information below will provide some guidance and insight into how to host an elegant event that everyone will remember fondly, forever.


Financing a Wedding

The first thing to consider when financing a wedding is the source, or sources, of the finances. Keep in mind that, typically, today’s couples are more established and may rely less on parent contributions. However, depending on the couple, they may be relying solely on the parents’ contributions or a blend of contributors.


If you are involved with contributing financially to the wedding, be sure to establish a set dollar amount early. Financial discussions are not an everyday topic; however, establishing a budget early and communicating clearly is essential to successful wedding planning.


Planning a Wedding

In order to streamline communication with the Wedding Planner, we recommend that there be one main point of contact for all aspects of the wedding. Typically, this point of contact may be the bride or the groom or a parent. This clear point of contact will help to maintain a consistent understanding of all tasks and deadlines.


Couples may need extra support during the planning process and may come to you for suggestions. There are many wedding things to do. Couples may need assistance with the following tasks:
  • Solidifying the guest list
  • Providing names and address for the guests
  • Making decisions on selecting the appreciative options and accommodations for family and friends
  • Menu planning
  • Special guest needs such as dietary, wheelchair assistance or child care options to be gathered.
Parents of The Bride Traditions
  • The Mother of the Bride typically sets her attire and communicates the color to the Mother of the Groom so that she can then select her attire.
  • Parents of the Bride typically take the lead on the wedding ceremony and reception.
  • Parents of the Bride may host a farewell event, such as a brunch, the day after the wedding (this is also often hosted jointly with the Parents of the Groom)
  • Parents of the Bride may provide hospitality suites as central gathering places.
Parents of The Groom Traditions
  • The Mother of the Groom typically allows the Mother of the Bride to first select her attire, than chooses her own attire accordingly.
  • Parents of the Groom typically take the lead on the Rehearsal Dinner.
  • Although the Parents of the Bride often throw a farewell event such as a brunch, the Parents of the Groom may also contribute, or host the event themselves.
  • As a gesture, it is customary of Parents of the Groom to contribute to the payment of the Bridal Bouquet.
As you may have guests traveling from long distances to attend the wedding, you may want to consider hosting additional, get-together events. For example, a welcome dinner or a farewell brunch might be great opportunities to spend some extra time with friends and loved ones.